QA with Bawa

In Bawa, Knowledge digest, Youth Corner on 08/02/2009 at 14:14


Lots of people ask me questions… here are a few answers

Q. How to get over lust?

A. First off dont make a big deal out of it… to get over it there are 4 things that really help a lot:
1. Do some creative stuff, lust will simply not bother you when you have a hobby, you do Seva, you cook a meal for someone, you organise a picnic… whatever…
2. Physical exercise: go jogging, swimming, to the gym… do Suryanamaskars… sweat it out! good for your body and mind and definitely great to get over any obsession
3. Dancing… dance to some devotional music, even some soft pop or rock is fine… move your body with abandon… with eyes closed surrender to the music…
4. and finally Cold Cold water baths!!

Q. Why is it so that some times some person suffers unnecessarily even if they are not responsible for that or you may say that it may not be in his own control?

A. Dont people also get very lucky too?  Sometimes without any effort, things work out amazingly perfectly… isnt it?  And some other times, even after working hard, things dont work… it balances out… doing Seva, Sadhana, Satsang will make more of the first type of things to happen in your life

Q. I always hear that one should not get too attached to anything. Can you please explain how one can refrain from getting too attached to something or someone at the same time enjoy whatever it is?

A. Have you ever seen a wet swan?  Though swans are always in water, they are never wet isnt it? Like that be in world, do everything, but be untouched by it… your practices, your Seva will slowly (sometimes it be very fast too:))  But surely bring this up in you without much effort from your side.

Q. Why is it that we lack self confidence, and have a low self esteem?  However, when a person is confident, and has a high self esteem, they appear as egotistical (or at least we perceive them as being so).  How is it possible to be half-half…. to have confidence in ourselves, and to not be/seem as though we have a big ego?

Lack of confidence and low self esteem happen when you regularly do not fulfill commitments that you have made to yourself and others… When you are ruled more by your feelings… So simply seeing to it that you do what you said you would do, will bring a tremendous boost in your confidence levels and your self esteem, and other people’s comments will not bother you, or even if they do, not for any considerable time.

There is a vast difference between a person who has confidence and self esteem and someone who simply has a big ego… An ego is that which separates, a confident person will be able to win people over and take everyone with him… In fact usually an egotistical person is a person who has almost no confidence or self esteem and tries to cover that up with being arrogant!

Do your Sadhana, Seva and Satsang and come on a few Advance courses a year and you will find that you start to become what you want to become a confident, wonderful human being!

Q. Is it right to trap a cockroach in a container, and suffocate it to death? – slow death, but that way, it prevents them from spreading their eggs, were we to squash them)… are we still liberating them?

According to me, better to squash it and clean up…

Q. I am a volunteer for YES!+, and due to family conditions i get depressed a lot, doing the course has helped me a lot but still my problem exists and it affects my health and becomes a hindrance when i try to concentrate while doing Kriya… Please help.

Depression happens when you think too much “What about me?”
Do your Sadhana, Seva and Satsang… Consciously think and do more for others and you will find that your depression will quickly vanish!
Also DON
T concentrate while doing Kriya, just do it effortlessly and easily, and do Kriya everyday, be very regular with it. Whatever thoughts that may come do not resist… finally, check your diet… see that you are eating good healthy veggie food at proper time and that u are drinking plenty of water… other than that, just relax and smile and you will be fine!

Q. Jai Gurudev Bau…Is ORGAN DONATION justifiable spiritually? Isnt it better if you donate your body organs to someone in need then bury it in the ground?  Does it affect your spiritual growth or harm the recipient soul?

Really no idea about this, but when the intention is clean and you wish to help, I don’t think that it could harm either the person who is donating or the person who is receiving.

Q. Its like this. I feel in AOL lots of politics happen in each centre and i actually get discouraged. why not we youngsters do seva at villages? we need to bridge the gap between rural youth n urban youth. I feel after coming to AOL I get hurt more and demotivated especially here when staying away from my family.  Please Help… JGD Bawa

Lets take this one thing at a time:
We do Seva because we love Guruji and we want to spread His precious Knowledge to the world… Guruji doesn
t exclude anyone, and do some troublemakers may crop up time and again… If this stops you from doing Seva, it means that these people, and their actions and opinions matter to you MORE than your love for Guruji or your commitment to spread His Knowledge… Is that really true?
Here is where all our course points can be experienced in action!
And yes, if you wish to do Seva in villages you are welcome to join the YLTP team but do remember that there may be politics there as well :)…
As far as staying away from family is concerned, just redefine “family”, and you will never be away from them!
Soooo accept the problem, and take intelligent, appropriate action and do remember to relax and smile…

Q. In life many a times, we know that something are not good for us..! but still we go ahead and do it.,..! when we all know that we have to work hard & smart to become successful, why is it that only a few actually follow the path and get there?

Laziness? Compromising long term pleasure for short term apparent joy? Plain vanilla stupidity?
Cmon, buck yourself up and get to work and get where you want to be… Anything is possible with hard/smart work… And don
t worry Guruji will provide the good luck… Thats whats called Grace!

Q. I have a son. I am taking care of my family very well . I would love to do more seva to the society.  Myself and my husband are AOL devotees, and we do volunteer work also. Either of us take care our son, another will go for AOL Seva.
Should we restrict oursel
ves to only family or can we come out of the family and do seva to every one?
One of our teacher sai
d that, leaving husband to clean ,wash and taking care of the son is not at all good.  I was really disturbed by her words, in this case should i restrict myself doing seva to the family alone and not come out of the family.  Please help me out .

You are very lucky that you have a husband who is so cooperative and takes care of your son while you do some Seva. Definitely do not neglect your child while doing Seva. At the same time its completely between you and your husband how you manage, and that teacher had no right to comment at all… Maybe she was just jealous :)… And for sure needs to do a few adv courses
I am so happy that even though you have a child and a very young one at that, you take time out to do Seva for others… You and your husband are doing the perfectly right thing and let no one tell you otherwise! More people have to redefine family like you have done to include more and more people!!
More families need to follow your example and very soon our planet will be a better place to live in!

Q. Why we are doing seva in the tribal areas although we know that after their economical condition is improved there is also problems like developed farmers have in the punjab etc.
what is our aim and what is our limit?

Our aim is Vasudeva Kutumbakam… Creating a one world family!
Seva needs to be done everywhere, not just in tribal areas or rural areas… there are extremely under privileged people staying even in New York and LA… Under privileged spiritually! Everyone needs help… And everyone who can help, should!!

Q. Bawa, I am from VIT University, Vellore,TN, India.  My college management are too adamant about their decision to not to let any courses like YES!+ in the campus.I will still do my best to convince them.

Don’t worry about your college being against YES!+ … Don’t convince your management, convince your friends to come and do the course!

Q. I am reading about smoking these days in detail, and getting shocking facts, which i want to convey to students here, who smoke and fall in its trap. i want to give the exact details of how bad it is for us, so that they think ten times even before trying their first cigarette.  Suggest me some good ideas, of how to effectively reach the students in the best way.  Helping the students already caught in smoking would be my 2nd step.

And as far as smoking is concerned, make a nice presentation about it, and show it to everyone. Your job is to educate, you do just that… If people dont want to listen, thats their problem, not yours…
If anyone wants to give up smoking, just get them to a YES!+ course… Even if they have to travel from Vellore to say Bangalore or Delhi or Mumbai for it, make them travel and maybe you also come with them… They will easily be able to quit after the course.

Q. A lot of my close friends have given me a feedback that i don’t make my presence felt. all these people believe that I’m not loud enough though i have the right ideas. i feel a problem with going ahead with my ideas without anyone to support, i feel the need of a friend who would discuss with me about my ideas and develop it and encourage me to go ahead. And i haven’t found that person yet. So how do i handle this situation without any special friend. i have always felt the need of a friend who takes me seriously and be really dedicated to our friendship.

There are many people around you who qualify for this… question is do you qualify to be a special friend for someone else? As soon as you do, you will not have one or two but dozens of very special people in your life!
How to qualify? Sadhana, Seva, Satsang… and thinking and doing more for others!
Get involved in Seva! Help organise a YES!+ or an Utsav course and see what happens. Drop this “What about me” attitude and you will be fine!

Q. I want to know how to identify my life/future between a lot of choices.. what is the purpose.. of my life!

Purpose of life is to Give!
Rest you figure out

Jai Gurudeva!


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